Tweak the default validation behaviour of the unpack API

Tweak the default validation behaviour of the unpack API

Now, by default, unpacking doesn't check that all array and object
items are accessed. The check can be enabled globally by using the
JSON_STRICT flag (formerly JSON_UNPACK_ONLY), or on a per-value basis
by using the new '!' format character. The '*' format character is
still available to disable the global check on a per-value basis.